Pastor 1- (with a
smile) Hi
Pastor 2- Hi
Pastor 1- So… where you from?
Pastor 2- First Bapticostal Community Church[1]
Pastor 1- Really? Do you
know the Ouanders? I think they go to
your church
Pastor 2- No, ‘fraid I don’t. They might have been before my time.
Pastor 1- yeah… probably…
(insert awkward
silence here as the “players” prepare for the only question they really want to
ask)
Pastor 2- So… how big is FBCC these days?
…and there you have it.
Of course, the real question is this:
Is your church bigger than mine?
I try so hard to avoid the question? I try to never ask it myself – though sometimes
the curiosity is so intense it’s almost painful. I often pause for several seconds trying to
fight the urge to say what is in my heart… Eventually though, I give in. I try to be as accurate as I can, “Since
January we’ve been averaging…” Or, “in
the last couple months…”
Those who have bigger churches typically respond with a
condescending, “Not bad…” a kind of, “I
remember those days…”
Those with smaller churches with a, “Wow, that big?” …a kind of “How did you ever become pastor of
a church that size?”
Here’s the thing.
When I get asked the question what I really want to is something like…
What does it matter?
Isn’t the real question… the better question, “Is your
church family healthy?” and if you
really want to be a true shepherd maybe you should be asking, “Is there
anything we can do to serve your church?
Anything we can do to help you become even more healthy… more effective
at extending God’s kingdom?”
…few pastors would have the courage to ask or answer in that
way. Myself included…
Speaking of “health” here’s a question: Do we even know what
a healthy church family looks like? I
don’t mean, “Have you taken the survey?” or “Are you pews filled on Sunday?” In my experience a church of 10 can be
healthier than a church of a thousand. A
church of 50 can sometimes reflect Jesus the Christ better than a church 5
times its size. It has nothing to do
with numbers…
There is nothing exhaustive here, in fact, I’m sure there
are better minds than mine that can come up with better lists. Off the top of my head here are some
healthy/unhealthy markers.
Healthy – a community where every believer knows why they
gather… and are committed to fulfilling their role in that gathering.
Healthy – a community that collectively responds to the
needs represented in the community (both church and beyond)
Unhealthy – a community that looks to the pastor (or
pastoral team) to do the things that God has called and gifted them to do.
Healthy – a community where people are so in love with Jesus
they cannot be offended (that is, they refuse to take offense regardless of
what is said or done)
Unhealthy – an offensive community. That is, one in which everything (or
anything) that is said or done is cause for offense
Healthy – a community where every believer is daily
becoming more like Christ
Healthy – a community where every non-believer is moving one
step closer to Christ as a result of relationships with Christ disciples in the
community.
Healthy – a community where every believer knows how God has
wired and gifted them and are using those gifts to accomplish the above
(without the lust for title or position)
…
I know, I know… nobody, and therefore no church, is perfect…
That doesn’t mean we should stop trying to be like Jesus.
Next time someone asks me, “How many people go to your
church?” I’m going to try to remember to
ask the “health” question instead.
…tryin’…
[1] nowadays
churches have kewler names like “the Tree” or “Seeds” or “Journey” …but I didn’t want to offend anyone
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